The Letters
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On the quiet violence of "having it all together".
We were sold a version of competence that requires us to disappear from our own lives. This week: what the research actually says about high-functioning exhaustion, why "self-care" stopped working, and the small daily mutiny that brings you back.
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6 letters · sent on Sundays
- No. 11
Between chapters is not a problem to solve.
The space between who you were and who you're becoming has a season of its own. Why we keep mistaking it for failure, and what it's actually for.
Becoming·6 min - No. 10
The wisdom tax women are quietly paying.
What we know, what we're allowed to say we know, and the cost of the gap between. A short essay on credibility, age, and being finally believed.
Research·8 min - No. 09
A small morning mutiny.
Not a routine. Not a ritual. A fifteen-minute act of refusal that's been quietly putting me back together.
Practice·5 min - No. 08
On rooms we grew into and rooms we outgrew.
Some friendships are scaffolding for the woman you're becoming. Some are scaffolding for the woman you've already been. How to tell the difference, gently.
Becoming·7 min - No. 07
Feeding, not fixing.
The whole premise of this letter, in 800 words. What it means to stop treating yourself as a problem and start treating yourself as a person who needs feeding.
Manifesto·5 min